Solitude 7 Ways To Find It

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Can you remember a time when you were totally engaged in the present moment? Time disappeared. There was only you. Nothing to do. Nowhere to go. A chance to be quiet and listen to your heart.


I recently had the opportunity to have some solitude, a time completely alone, aside from our 11 year old yellow lab, Gracie Girl. This doesn’t happen that often, so I wanted to share a few things with you about my adventure with solitude. Just following my annual Girls Gather From All Around at the lake, I had a few hours to myself before Donny would rejoin me.  I seized the moments and took an intentional time-out for me. I had been storing up files, clippings, quotes, thoughts from my siblings, all about my Mama—and I had been pondering a book project, entitled “12 Lessons My Mama Taught Me.”

I was right in the middle of a 21-Day Challenge with a newly discovered group, Unstoppable Influencers, and I was building motivation and inspiration to get back to my writing. This was a great feeling!!!

BE still and know that I am God. Psalm 46:10

I was basically alone, with God, me, and our canine.  After attending author, Lauretta Hannon’s Write-In Workshop (author of The Cracker Queen: A Memory of a Jagged, Joyful Life) , as well as taking Josh Langston’s Writing Classes, (author of Writing Naked: The Secrets of Dynamic Prose Laid Bare, among many novels) I got down to business. I wrote,  mused, wrote, and pondered. The time was amazing, I must say.

Found this quiet spot while I was on a hike.

Now, before you say “There’s no way I have time for that!” and just stop reading at this point, I do realize that it is rare for a person to have the luxury to unplug from it all for this long.

Solitude is definitely a gift that few people take full advantage of and I would like to offer some thoughts  on how you and I can seize the moments for being alone, if only for a few minutes in a day, week, or month.

As a new Jojo to two pre-one-year-old Grands, my solitude time has become more important than before. I LOVE time with them and I LOVE my time of being alone and allowing my body to catch up with soul. Time to catch my breath, exercise, work on my writing, or just sit and do nothing.

Elizabeth Page and Tripp Andrews born in 2018 will have their first birthdays soon, Tripp on 8/24 and Elizabeth on 9/7. BOTH babes are crawling like crazy and pulling up any chance they get!!!!! They are the LOVES of our LIVES these days.

Seven Ways To Find Solitude:

  1. take a walk

  2. sleep in

  3. savor a cup of hot tea

  4. treat yourself to ________ (a massage, shopping, exercise, a nap, gardening, healthy foods, dark chocolate, yoga, reading)

  5. say “YES” to what you desire

  6. say “NO” to that which doesn’t inspire

  7. spend time in nature, alone, enjoying the pleasure of your own company

    First published in 1854, Thoreau’s Walden has inspired many.

Henry David Thoreau (1817-1862) lived alone in the woods for two years and two months in a small structure built with his own hands, for just under $29.00.

An early morning walk is a blessing for the whole day. Henry David Thoreau

While I have not been able to get through his book, Walden, cover-to-cover, I have read enough bits and pieces to confirm the benefits of solitude, both long like Thoreau, or short-term like the seven suggestions above.


…start down that path to solitude.

How will you and I find ways to carve solitude

into our lives in the days ahead?


Later, after my time of solitude, the song, The Prayer came on over my Sirius radio.

I pray you’ll be our eyes, and watch us where we go,
And help us to be wise, in times when we don’t know
Let this be our prayer, as we go our way
Lead us to a place, guide us with your grace
To a place where we’ll be safe…lyrics from The Prayer

As I listened to the lyrics, I thought about how much better our world would be if we could just take a few minutes out and utter the lyrics of this song…

Sandi Patti and Don Pelsis.

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6 thoughts on “Solitude 7 Ways To Find It

  1. I love reading your stories and notes and quotes. I’m so very blessed to live in the woods i said i would retire here and I have.
    There’s nothing like Gods Grace surrounding you everyday.
    The Prayer…I will learn and say on my walks in the woods.
    Thank you again for a truly inspiring piece.
    Sincerely , Amanda Goodwill

  2. HI Amanda!
    Thanks so much for stopping by and reading my pages here! Wow, so you made a plan for post-retirement and then found a way to make it happen. Now, that is inspiring in and of itself. It must be amazing living in the quietness and beauty of nature, yes, surrounded by God’s Grace daily. I am glad you liked the song: The Prayer. That seems to happen often when I am fishing up a post, a song just shows up in my path, and I have to pull over and add it to the current post. The lyrics of this song especially spoke to my heart because of our increasingly uncertain times. Again, thanks for taking time to leave a comment, I really appreciate that ! Blessings to you in the woods! Joan

  3. Well, you did again. Brought tears to my eyes. My quiet time is often found riding the train. I sit and wait – A LOT. But this blog took me to many places. I listened to Sandi Patti, and of course that’s when the tears started. Then I was reminded of songs I listened to when I was alone in Kansas City – My Utmost For His Highest. So I went to I-tunes and downloaded a couple of songs I hadn’t listened to in more than a decade! So, now, I just close my eyes and relish in my “quiet time” alone – just me and God. It’s a Powerful thing.

  4. HI there, Sam and thanks so much for taking the time to share your experience with me. Your comment prompted me to listen to Sandi Patti’s The Prayer, again, and it also drew me into His presence. Yes, music is such a wonderful and powerful way to connect with our Creator! I love that we have connected through my Pages. Your presence here has been a gift to me!

  5. Once again, Joan, you have touched my heart with your words on your Pages. I’m now retired and could find lots of time for solitude, but I find myself busy with busy and not finding time for solitude except for an hour or so in the morning with the Lord and His Word. That time is so precious, but I really do need to find even more time, maybe just to listen. Thank you so much for always inspiring me!

    I couldn’t get to the version of “The Prayer” by Sandi Patty, but I watched/listened to the one by Celine Dion and Josh Groban. Absolutely beautiful!! Thanks so much for mentioning it. It speaks my heart.

    Keep posting your Pages, dear friend.

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