8 Traits of an Authentic, Successful Woman Don't Be Afraid To Fail

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The purpose of life is to live it, to taste experience to the utmost, to reach out eagerly and without fear for newer and richer experience.”

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Remember the old saying: “I’ll do that when I get around to it.” Well, here are a couple of round tuits!

There is so much I need to do, so much I want to do. Sometimes, I wish there was a daily list written in the sky with my name on it!  With each new day, I desire purpose in my day, and I bet you do, too. A book I have been reading through in the past few months is

 Successful Women Think Differently, by, Valorie Burton.

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“Be STILL, and KNOW that I am God.” Psalm 46:10

This book challenges me to live out the following 8 traits of an authentic, successful woman:

  • 1. courage in the face of fear, instead of feeling sorry for ourselves when things don’t go as we plannedDon't be Afraid to Fail card isolated on white
  • 2. a belief in our ability to navigate obstacles when they come, instead of giving up once we fail
  • 3. relationships that strengthen ourselves, rather than weaken ourselves-avoiding relationships that drain our time and energy
  • 4. goals that are authentic to our deepest needs and desires, defining success by our own standards, not society’s standards
  • 5. a sense of personal purpose and vision, instead of putting successful women on a pedestal, as though there is some success formula we don’t have access to
  •  6. a perspective on life that accepts failure and mistakes as a normal part of the journey, instead of striving as though success is a destination where we “arrive”
  •  7. a habit of saying “NO” to good opportunities in favor of more purposeful ones
  •  8. a willingness to take risks, rather than be an eternal procrastinator who won’t get started because we fear failure and imperfection
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    There is a season to say “Yes” and a season to say “No”. Let yourself say “No” when it is appropriate.
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    Obstacles are a part of life and YOU and I have what we need to overcome them!
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    Foster positive and encouraging friendships.

    To elaborate on # 6 for a minute, I have been reading another book that has been very helpful to me: Failing Forward, by, John Maxwell. The author uses the word REAL for an acrostic to illustrate what he believes humans need in order to succeed:

Relationships: The greatest skill needed for success is the ability to get along with other people. It impacts every aspect of a person’s life. Your relationships make you or they break you.

Equipping: One of the most significant lessons in life is that those closest to you determine the level of your success. If your dreams are great, you achieve them only with a team.

Attitude: People’s attitudes determine how they approach life day-to-day. Our attitude, more than our aptitude, will determine our altitude.

Leadership: Everything rises and falls on leadership. If you desire to lift the lid on your personal effectiveness, the only way to do it is to increase your leadership skills.


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Which of these traits do you want to take on as a challenge? Do you need to recognize more readily that perfection is not possible, whereas failure and mistakes can bring lessons and progress? Is there a positive friend in your community that you would like to reach out to and meet for coffee in the coming week?

“IF IT IS TO BE, IT IS UP TO ME!” is a quote consisting of only two-letter words and attributed to William H. Johnsen (1901-1970), an African-American artist from Florence, S.C. Mr. Johnsen’s quote reminds us to take responsibility, take charge of our own journey, and stop waiting for someone else to make the changes we would like to see in our future. Let’s start today!

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