Kneeling During Anthem Versus Standing Up For Black Lives Matter Are We Making Any Difference? Five Ways We Might

'Means we use must be as pure as the ends we seek.' Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. (1929-1968)

Kneeling during our anthem versus standing up for Black Lives Matter. Are we making any difference?

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This past weekend, we watched more and more NFL players kneeling during the singing of our National Anthem preceding their football games. Every beating heart has a story, those who fight for our nation’s safety and those who kneel when our nation’s flag is being raised. Both also have a responsibility to those who are watching them, those who are following after the legacy they will leave behind.

Click here for Dr. Jim Denison’s thoughts, a fresh perspective on the subject, in his Denison Forum: Thoughtfully Engaging Today’s Issues.

A friend of mine, whose son has recently reenlisted in the United States Army, the largest branch of the U.S. Armed Forces, had this to say on a Facebook post that has been shared over 140 times:

“Dear NFL Kneelers, this is my son, Sergeant James Todd, US Army. He makes a minuscule fraction of what you make in a year. He doesn’t have a platform like you do. He doesn’t have an audience like you do. He also doesn’t get the media attention you do. But he will have a lasting kingdom impact that you won’t have. He doesn’t care about your race or religion. This picture is from his recent re-enlistment. Yes, he chose to stay in the Army, defend our constitution and all of those rights afforded you. So keep on kneeling during the national anthem. He’ll keep defending your right to do so. At the end of the day, he and the thousands of armed service personnel are the real heros making a difference. #iwillnotwatchthenfl #godblessamerica #usarmy”

'Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that.' Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. (1929-1968)

I shared my friend’s post on my Facebook page.  In response, through a private Facebook message, I heard from a dear, former student of mine who happens to be a young lady of color. I taught this now friend back at Avondale Elementary School in DeKalb County, Georgia, back in the early-mid 1980’s. First, I must say how proud I am of how my student has excelled in her life! ( I will take a tiny bit of credit for that, lol) My student gave me much food for thought regarding this very difficult controversy:

“Hello…I’ve been reading your posts regarding the issue of NFL players kneeling during the national anthem and I wanted to share my perspective with you. I’m not a fan of football in any way and my father served in the military. So while I see both sides of the issue, I tend to lean towards one side in particular. I am the parent of children who I have had to have a talk with that most Caucasian parents don’t have to have when it comes to interaction with the police.  I fear for my sons who at any time may be profiled and subject to abuse from a crazy officer. And I’m in no way anti-police, because my oldest wants to be one. Sadly, he has had his own negative experiences because his then girlfriend was white. To see so many blacks be abused and killed by officers without repercussions can lead to helplessness and hopelessness. This is why Colin Kaepernick chose to kneel to begin with. Not to dishonor those who serve in the military to show that this is a country that doesn’t value the lives of people with my skin color. This isn’t new. But what is new is the discussion. I only hope that it can be a productive one. But for that to happen, there has to be a respect and understanding from both sides. I just wanted to share my thoughts with you. 

This is not a political post. I will most definitely not be weighing in on President Donald Trump’s comments, tweets or responses to this controversy.

What I hope to do here is to share ideas about how this can be reconciled. Colin Kaepernick made his point. Now where can we go from here without dividing our nation more than it already is? Continuing to kneel before a game, while being paid ginormous salaries to entertain the masses with their athletic abilities isn’t helping.

Call me naive, but here are five ways we might begin to make a difference:

  1. Citizens and Police Officers have mutual respect for each other, regardless of race. All citizens show complete compliance when requests are made of him/her, while officers avoid making assumptions based on race.
  2. All Americans show respect for our flag and for our nation, along with full gratitude for all who serve this great country.
  3. Let there be peace on earth and let it begin in me. Let there be peace on earth, the peace that was meant to be. With God as our father, brothers all are we. Let me walk with my brother, in perfect harmony.
  4. Avoid bringing controversy into the workplace. This field is the workplace of these NFL players, and the tickets are being paid to watch them play.
  5. The Golden Rule. Regardless of gender, race, or nationality, treat those in your path in the manner you expect to be treated.

Mama taught me there is a time and place for everything.  I am thankful the demonstrations are peaceful, however these NFL Games are simply not the place to make changes regarding how people of color are treated in our great nation.

Here are some thoughts shared by Dr. Ben Carson on this issue:

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“Here we are at another NFL Sunday. That used to represent a time of fun, games and unity. I hope we can return to that situation soon. One of the reasons we play the national anthem before the game is to remind us that even though we’re rooting for different sports teams, we are united as a country. That is a wonderful message that we should not allow to be distorted by anyone.
Of course we all have the right to express ourselves, but as the Bible says, there is a time and place for everything. Last week I saw a story about pre-adolescent players being drawn into the “take a knee” protests. Does anyone honestly believe that encouraging even our youth to believe they are victims of our society will actually help us come together?
I think many athletes actually think they are making things better. We would encourage them and all Americans to utilize their influence to truly draw people together and not be manipulated into doing the opposite under the guise of unity.”

What are your thoughts regarding kneeling during the national anthem versus standing up for Black Lives Matter? Starting today, how can you and I have a positive impact in resolving this controversy?

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Battle Back Against Haters With Love & Barbecue

Hollis Morris turns the ribs on his Pigs-N-Heat BBQ grill.

I hate to admit that there is still racism in our world today. We, however can battle back against the haters with love and BBQ!

[pullquote]Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter.” Dr. Martin Luther King[/pullquote]One of the things l appreciate about social media is the way it helps me stay in touch with story lines which are of interest to me and my like-minded friends. Recently, our friend, Rebecca posted a local story and I could not quit thinking about it. I guess that is when the words to this blog post began forming in my mind. The story from November 11, 2015, is about a gentleman by the name of Hollis Morris who opened a BBQ Restaurant in the Kennesaw community about eight months ago. Morris said that his restaurant had been well received, that is until, to his and his family’s dismay, he began to receive multiple phone calls with threats, and laced with profanity. Using the “n- word”, the caller would tell Mr. Morris that he and his business were not wanted in our community. In addition, there were signs posted on the front and back doors, using the “n-word.”


[pullquote]I have decided to stick with love…Hate is too great a burden to bear.” Dr. Martin Luther King [/pullquote]The title “Ku Klux Klan” was also used by the caller. When I googled KKK, this is what popped up. When I called the number listed on this home page, a woman answered. As she gave me a bit of info, I told her that I noted the KKK home page said that they were about “love NOT hate. I then told her about this incident in Kennesaw, asking her if the national office condoned this type of conduct. The representative said the National KKK Headquarters would never do something like that but there were other groups who have broken off from them who might be responsible for it. Mr. Morris has informed the Cobb County Police Department about the threats, which have been taken very seriously.

No matter who these haters are, this behavior is deplorable!

Yum! Let’s Dig In! BBQ from Pigs-N-Heat, Kennesaw, GA.

Let’s battle back against these haters and go get us some delectable BBQ! Whether from Tennessee, Texas, Georgia, Louisiana, or the Carolinas, Southern BBQ is the sweetest and most savory taste around. Donny and I have tried Mr. Morris’ Pigs-N-Heat BBQ and we confidently recommend it. Pigs-N-Heat is located conveniently at the corner of U.S. Cobb Parkway 41 and Jim Owens Road. (3061 Jim Owens Road, Kennesaw, Georgia) They offer a wide menu, a drive-up window, delivery within 10 minutes of their location as well as catering. Don’t wait! If you live near here, please offer your support to this business and enjoy some delicious BBQ at the same time!


I love the following story I also found on Facebook: It reportedly happened recently at the Lindbergh Center Marta Station in Atlanta, Georgia. This young man who is sitting was struggling with getting his necktie tied. When the woman in the red coat noticed, she asked him if he knew how to tie it properly. “No ma’am,” he replied. Without hesitation, she taps her husband on the shoulder asking him to teach the young man how to tie a necktie.

IMG_7519 IMG_7520The older gentleman, again without hesitation, gave the young man a step-by-step tutorial; afterward, the elder gentleman watched the younger man repeat the steps and show him that he had it. Redd Desmond Thomas posted this on Saturday saying that though he was some distance away, he was close enough to hear the exchange and witness the tutorial before jumping on his train. This reminds me that we can all have a positive impact with the specific situation right in front of us!IMG_6457